The motivation for learning does not develop in one day, sometimes it takes a lot of effort and time. If you missed something in raising your child, it’s never too late to start building your relationship with trust and understanding.
Do not motivate your child with distant and illusory goals, incomprehensible for his age. Every parent needs to find out what the potential of their children is. Try to reveal his talents from different sides, give him the opportunity to prove himself. Look for the inclinations in your children for any kind of activity, show by your example that we have been learning new things all our lives, that there are many interesting things in life.
Do not forget that in no case should you beat, humiliate, shout at the child, because the school will end sooner or later, and your relationship will remain. According to the research of E. N. Volkova, the majority of children living in families in which severe physical, emotional, and other types of violence are used, have signs of delayed physical and neuropsychic development.
Their memory deteriorates, the processes of memorization and preservation are difficult, selectivity in memorization increases sharply. Attention becomes scattered, speech becomes poorer, and stuttering appears. Children do much worse in school, the processes of school adaptation are more difficult to proceed.
Imagine what kind of person your child will be at the end of the educational path. The time spent studying is very valuable for his formation as a person, do not miss it!
In recent years, the practice of teachers shows that the number of children who do not seek to acquire knowledge is constantly growing. It even appears in primary school students.
The reluctance to learn is manifested in the fact that children forget to do their homework, they have a mess in their textbooks and desks, in class they draw, look out the window, talk with classmates, they are bored in class. Such children may blame teachers for their poor grades, but most often they do not care about academic failure.
Why don’t kids want to learn? Even experienced teachers are not always ready to unequivocally answer this question, but we will try to give the most simple and effective ways to motivate your child.
The reasons why children do not want to learn are different, there are quite a few of them. Let’s look at some of them.
What influences unwillingness to learn
1. The child is too small for school. Parents think their children are ready for school if they see they know a lot for their age. But even if your child is smart enough, and you think not to take him an extra year to kindergarten, this does not mean that he is psychologically ready for school. Most likely, the child will not be able to obey certain rules. In addition, it is more difficult for young children to sit for a long time in lessons without movement.
2. Conflicts with teachers. Often, even the teachers themselves are unaware of the conflict with their pupils. They may notice that the student has poor academic performance, his behavior has changed, although, as it seems to the teacher, there was no conflict as such. In fact, the child could hear unpleasant words addressed to him or harbor a grudge against the teacher’s behavior.
The child may feel depressed, fearful, and develop a negative attitude towards the teacher. In most cases, children do not want to tell their parents about their fears associated with school, this conserves the conflict and the difficulties associated with it.
3. Conflicts with students. If such a problem has already developed, then it can be very difficult to align it without consequences for the child.
4. Physical defects. For example, stuttering, trembling limbs, and others. It is very difficult for children to get used to the idea that they are somehow different from their peers. It becomes especially difficult in cases where shortcomings cause bullying and laughter from classmates. Knowing about his problem, the child does not want to become the center of attention, feel humiliated, and once again appear at school.
5. Intra-family conflicts. Scandals between parents and other family members. Often such a child, due to worries, closes in himself, he not only loses motivation to learn, but he is also rarely interested in anything at all.
6. Pressure on the child from parents and relatives. We set high standards for children, sending them to the best schools where education is conducted at a higher level, we enroll in various sections. Just imagine how many sections parents are trying to give their children to without taking into account the opinion of the children themselves.
. Parents shout, resent, and scold children if they bring bad grades or simply do not reach the results of their classmates. Consider if you are putting too much pressure on your children to do things they don’t want.
Surely every parent at least once wondered how to teach a child to be independent without hassle and disappointment? How to teach children to do their homework with joy, to make the learning process fun for the children themselves. In this article, we guide you on how to work with child motivation.
What factors affect interest in learning?
1. Interest in the subjects studied. Often, children lose interest in learning some subjects just because they seem boring to children. However, you need to make it clear to the child that in all lessons they give the necessary information that develops different skills, therefore it is important to study all subjects. There are many disciplines that require more work to learn. In this case, you need to find another motivation. Much depends on the teacher, who can explain complex things in simple language and thus simplify the learning process.
2. A way of studying subjects. In elementary grades, it is much easier for children to learn through active methods, discussion, and play. The teacher should pay attention to the fact that tasks like “rewrite textbooks” and “work on our own” reduce interest in the subject, while creative and various unusual ones, on the contrary, increase.
3. Perception of information. Some children perceive information better through sight, others through hearing, and still others through images. The effectiveness of teaching children largely depends on the type of information perception. Parents can choose their own ways of teaching a child if they understand his peculiarities of information perception.
4. The interest of the teacher. When a teacher motivates students by personal example, shows a positive attitude towards the subject, then children also have an interest in what they are taught. When they know that they will hear something funny or interesting in the classroom, they will happily expect these items.
What are the types of motivation?
Motivation is one of the most important conditions for successful learning. The most significant for students are the following motives:
- Cognitive, that is, the desire to know more, to become erudite;
- Communicative – expanding the circle of communication through increasing the intellectual level and new acquaintances;
- Self-development – the disclosure of their abilities and talents;
- Student position;
- External – rewards, punishments.
In addition, motives are divided into external (social) and internal (cognitive). An example of extrinsic motivation: “You have to pass the exam so that your parents do not scold.” Intrinsic motivation: “I really like literature lessons, so I read at any free minute, with every book I read I learn something new.
Most often, children’s motivation is unstable due to the fact that they are very emotional. It is very easy to interrupt old ones with new emotions and impressions. It is very difficult for a child who is not interested in learning to apply the knowledge gained in practice, and the lack of motivation for the educational process leads to chronic academic failure. Why is this happening?
Of course, only you yourself can choose how to raise your child correctly, but it is on this choice that he and your life depend. Not all parents realize what mistakes they make in the process of motivating their children. Let’s consider not all, but the most relevant ones that are found most often among parents.
1. Underestimating your child’s self-esteem, programming for failure. This happens when you tell your child that nothing good will come of him that he will become a janitor if he does not study well. Such words lead to low self-esteem, in case of any failures, the child lets go of his hands, completes what he started at the slightest problem.
2. Deception and intimidation. If you use these methods, the bond and trust between you and your child will be destroyed.
3. Excessive requirements, not taking into account the capabilities of the child. The parent may think that the child is lazy or “deliberately not studying”, while there may be specific reasons (especially mental development, illness, fatigue). 4. Gifts in exchange for good academic performance.
There are many disadvantages to this method. The child quickly develops a habit of getting what he wants through good grades. In the future, he may begin to demand a reward and fulfill your requests only after receiving what he wants. Such children are focused only on receiving presents, and not on good studies
How to increase motivation to study
Play is a unique instrument of pedagogical influence. If the child does not want to study or he is unable to do something, you can always come up with a game in which he can complete the tasks you have given.
These can be intellectual exercise games, competition-based training games. They show schoolchildren the level of their preparedness and fitness. By comparing with the opposite team, students themselves see their gaps in knowledge, this encourages cognitive activity in them.
The game form does not imply a standard assessment of the student, therefore, even lagging children can be of interest.
2. Support your child in his hobbies
Do not impose your favorite activities, let him do his hobbies. Help children discover their hidden talents or develop existing ones, let them freely choose what fascinates them.
3. Small rewards, not big rewards
Encourage the child, praise for the result, but you should not do this in cash and in the form of expensive gifts. Otherwise, the time will come when the child wants to sell you the results of his labor at a higher price. For example, the rule “For every correct task – 1 candy” works much well than “For every five in the diary – a cake”. The candy is a kind of guarantee that the difficult homework is done in an atmosphere of trust, which in itself is already motivation.
4. Take an interest in what your child has learned in school, not in his grades.
Show him how you can apply the knowledge gained, discuss his stories together. As often as possible, encourage the child to think, discuss. Remember that any assessment is a subjective thing, it is not an indicator of your child’s knowledge, but just his assessment by teachers.
The child is not required to be an excellent student, he has the right to receive bad grades. If he himself is upset because of the deuce, support, and never scold. After all, first of all, you should be his friend and partner.
5. Minimize stress
Tell the children how you yourself overcame difficulties in school, how you coped with difficult tasks. Show what you have achieved now that you have walked this path. Talk together about your failures and fears.
The child should always know that he will be heard, and the problems will not be exaggerated. Explain that stress is an integral part of life, teach how to cope with it so that in the future the child can overcome it himself.